I Love the Way You Lie: NaBloPoMo

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Did you ever tell a lie you had to keep repeating in order to not blow your cover?

Unfortunately, yes I have. The circumstances were extraordinary. Extraordinarily bad. I was in an abusive relationship at the time.
I thought that if I convinced him to move out of state with me then he would not be close to my kids. So I told people that this is what I wanted. I told him that I wanted to move away with him. I told his mother that I wanted to move. She tried to talk me out of it. I do feel terrible for lying to her.
It was a means to an end. Luckily, it was not the end of me or my children. Not everyone is as blessed as I was to have a new beginning.
If I had to do it all over, I would have gotten help in a different way. At the time, I didn’t know that domestic violence shelters existed.

So if you know someone that is being abused, here is the link to the National Domestic Violence Hotline. http://www.thehotline.org/ The phone number is 1-800-799-7233. If you have questions, they have answers. Everything that is shared will stay confidential.

“Just a small town girl – living in a lonely world.” Concert tickets are practically essential. Musicals are the key to life. I like movies, music,books, and corny jokes.

12 Comments

  1. Country Fairy12 – Ohio – This blog is dedicated to recovery of any sort...Chronic pain,Fibromyalgia, MS,disability,and my personal journey spreading domestic violence awareness,as I have experienced it.... and my every thought along the way as I walk down this new road, that I call my life of an abused/displaced/disabled 40 something woman. my personal blog/site is http://www.avanbuskirk.com hope to see you there.
    Country Fairy12 says:

    Reblogged this on My Drops Of Jupiter.

  2. Thank you for sharing this. I do know someone right now in that situation. And she is pulling away from everyone. Maybe I should be taking the steps to help her whether she wants it or not. Thank you for this right now. I’m glad everything worked out for you!

    1. holley4734 – “Just a small town girl – living in a lonely world.” Concert tickets are practically essential. Musicals are the key to life. I like movies, music,books, and corny jokes.
      holley4734 says:

      Yes! Definitely help her however you can! My friend sent me an email with a link to a questionaire – something like “Are you in an abusive relationship?” So I took the quiz. I hadn’t been able to admit it before then. Even though I knew but I hadn’t said it out loud.
      Thanks! I hope your friend can find a way out.

  3. I’m happy for you that you finally got away from the abusive relationship. I’ve never been in one, but I have been unhappy in marriage and stayed anyway, for 12 years. Isn’t it strange that we stay? Sometimes it just seems easier. Anyway, glad you safe. I will share this post for you. Peace.

    1. holley4734 – “Just a small town girl – living in a lonely world.” Concert tickets are practically essential. Musicals are the key to life. I like movies, music,books, and corny jokes.
      holley4734 says:

      Thank you so much. Yes, it is strange. I wonder why I stayed when it was so miserable.
      Thanks for reblogging!

  4. This is such a tender part of your life that you are sharing. Thank you for being transparent. I too have been a victim of domestic violence and pushed me to overcome my fear of driving. I drove 27 hrs away from that husband to rebuild my life. I ended up meeting the love of my life. The leap was worth it for me.

    1. holley4734 – “Just a small town girl – living in a lonely world.” Concert tickets are practically essential. Musicals are the key to life. I like movies, music,books, and corny jokes.
      holley4734 says:

      Good for you! The leap is usually worth it. Thanks for sharing.

    1. holley4734 – “Just a small town girl – living in a lonely world.” Concert tickets are practically essential. Musicals are the key to life. I like movies, music,books, and corny jokes.
      holley4734 says:

      Thank you. I didn’t feel courageous but I felt like I was doing the right thing when I left.

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