What’s the one piece of advice you wish someone had given you a year (or five, or ten…) ago?
Fifteen years ago, I needed someone to tell me that being alone is just fine and not a measure of my self-worth. I wish I had understood that it’s better to be alone and work on my issues than to be with some jerk who creates more issues. It took me at least a year to be able to eat in front of people without wondering if I was eating too loud or scraping my teeth on the fork. It’s an issue I wouldn’t have if I had been comfortable with loneliness.
Loneliness stinks, I know. So does neediness and insecurity. I swear I will unfriend the next person on Facebook that complains about having to be alone for two minutes because they are apparently suffocating on their feelings.
There has to be something to do besides be sad and eat ice cream. Scratch that – keep the ice cream and take it to the park. If you are lactose intolerant, get a dog and take it to the park. A dog is more loyal than most people anyway. It’s worth considering. I saw a guy yesterday take his dog out for ice cream. No one was crying either.
Suck it up Buttercup! Loneliness probably won’t last forever. Work on understanding what you are worth so that you will be ready when someone awesome comes along. If they don’t see how wonderful you are, then it might be easier to move on.