Freedom of Speech: I’ll Say What I Want. NaBloPoMo

Freedom of Speech: I'll Say What I Want. NaBloPoMo

Do you strongly support freedom of speech? Do you think it should have limits?

The First Amendment states:
” Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.”

Yes. And yes. What is freedom of speech for? It began so that people could express their ideas to the government or about the government without suffering from repercussions from the government. For example, a local farmer could voice his opinion without worrying about their fields being taken away or destroyed. We can say that the government should be run in a different way because of the First Amendment. I saw a video yesterday in which a truck driver flagged down a state trooper, who was speeding and talking on his cell phone. If we didn’t have the first amendment, the truck driver would not have been able to do done that and not been sent to jail himself.
In some regards, freedom of speech has been taken out of context. It doesn’t mean that we should insult people. Freedom of speech does not give anyone the right to be an ass. It doesn’t give you the right to berate your kid during his soccer game. You still don’t have the right to disrespect the mother or father of your children on the Maury Povich show. People do it everyday though because somewhere along the line, it became acceptable to be an idiot on national television. There aren’t any laws stating that you have to respectfully talk to someone either. It doesn’t seem fair that people can be rude all the live long day.
Somehow when Voltaire said, “I do not agree with what you have to say, but I’ll defend to the death your right to say it,” I don’t think he imagined all of the horrible and stupid things that people say to each other. Luckily, there are laws against things like slander, hate speech and defamation.

So, it’s my blog and I’ll say what I want . . . within reason, of course.

Destino’s Interview with . . . Chrysalis

Destino's Interview with . . . Chrysalis

So what did I do today? Oh you know, I took the kid to the park. Then I took the kid to dentist. I also interviewed Yessi Burton from Chrysalis. All in a day’s work, right? Yessi is the first interviewee that has read my blog. So while I was researching Chrysalis, he was researching me. We had a very entertaining conversation. Well, I was entertained anyway.
The band members are Yessi Burton, Chris Norris, Billy Norris, Gabe Gallego and Jared Sturgis. Seriously, go see these guys live when they’re in a town near you. They’ll be in Ohio on July 28. So maybe they’ll be playing in my backyard around that date. We’ll bring the beverages. My neighbor’s rooster will be so mad for keeping him awake. 🙂 I can’t wait. Paybacks rooster, paybacks.

How did you decide on Chrysalis as a name?
It’s worked to our advantage and disadvantage. It’s just as equally difficult to spell. It’s not a good or bad thing. It might alienate us from some people. People who seek us out are more likely to stick around.

When did you know that you wanted to be in a band?
I knew I wanted to be in a band when my uncle took me to first Van Halen concert. It was at the Blockbuster pavilion. Now it’s the San Manuel Amphitheater. It’s a huge venue. They have Ozzfest and other big shows. When we entered and took our seats, I saw the huge speaker and equipment and all of their stuff. I knew I wanted to be up there with all of that stuff. That’s when I knew. I was 100% certain. I never considered anything else. I have to hand it to my uncle for the opportunity.

Do you have any mentors?
Yeah, Patrick Teasley was my guitar teacher. He was a local instructor in Bartstow. He was a friend of my dad and my uncle. My aunt wanted to make sure I was capitalizing on my improvement (after getting better at guitar). I took lessons for about five or six years. A lot of good instruction. Some musicians say they learn it naturally. To say you are completely self-instructed, it’s bullshit. Everyone has some sort of instruction.
Patrick has been living in Florida. He is one of the best musicians I know. Probably giving lessons in Florida now. Billy and Chris were taught my their dad (Side note: Billy plays the drums. Chris plays the guitar). My uncle was the only one in my entire family who was musically proficient. My other family members are more like “Why are you doing that?” They don’t get the new waves and trends.

Tell me about the Battle of the Bands for the Warped Tour.
We’ve played the Warped Tour before. It’s not that big of a deal. Our focal point is working with our agency to get better shows.
For our next tour, we leave on July 5th. Going to florida, New York. Going to all 50 states hopefully.
There’s this one thing that I’d like to mention. We’re holding a fundraiser for the next tour. It will cover a small percentage of touring. Food, lodging, transportation. Enough to keep a group of guys on the road. Visit to make a donation.

I read that you guys got stuck somewhere for a week while on the road. Do you think it make the band closer/stronger?
I think we’ve been as close as we want to be as a band. Breaking down and going through shit like that we’re a functional unit. Extended family rather than just a bunch of friends. Almost like I’m still home. I believe we were stuck in Rockford, Northern California. Transmission went out. 8 of us. Five band members. Two roadies. And a manager, who doesn’t usually roll with us but this time he did. So during the 5 days, we trashed the hotel, played football games. We pestered our manager. He would be sitting on his bed with his laptop. He’s a quiet guy.
We took multiple showers during the day because there wasn’t anything to do. Same animal planet shows over and over. There was nothing to do but get close to each other.

How long have you had the handlebar mustache? How did that come about?
I got it for almost 3 years. It started out as a bet between a friend. We were going to go 2 years without shaving our mustaches. He lost the bet within 2 months. I ran with it. When I commit to something, that’s that. If I commit, I’m going to keep it for 2 years and keep it for 2 more years just to show people I mean business. People notice that first before the music.

Is there anywhere you guys would like to play that you haven’t yet?
Ohio. We’ll come play a personal show for Holley.

You guys could come play in my backyard. It’s pretty big.
Are there any bands or musicians that you would like to collaborate with?

Yeah, I would really like to collaborate with Santana. That would be really cool to have a basic rock rhythm and have him come out and do a solo.
I would like to do a collaboration with a band that really inspired me . . a lot of their sound in our music. Lacuna Coil. They are an Italian band. I would sneak backstage whenever they came to town. Cristina Scabbia was the singer. If I could do a song with her. . . The next album is going to have a lot of female vocals. So female collaboration is going to be mandatory for our next CD.

Guilty pleasure? Any bands/musicians that you almost hate to admit that you love?
Yeah, there are a lot of those. All of the guys have those. We’re into a variety of music. One Republic. Just because they have 90s boy band appeal. But their sound is really good. Those guys are really on top of their pop game. I cringe when I watch the music videos. They are geared toward 12 year old girls. It kind of makes me want to vomit. When you compare, today’s pop and 90s pop, there were a lot more characters, like O-Town. Pop stars were a lot more colorful back then.
That’s one thing I hear in every interview. Every artist wants to think that they’re doing something different. There are forms of music that are strictly traditional. Now it’s a constant uphill battle to get the most original song. People are trying to zero in on successful music and get successful themselves. A Business plan if you will. The latest go around with Lady Gaga is similar to Madonna’s plan. You’d have to be stupid not to do it because it was so successful. What’s wrong with being traditional? A bunch of guys in a garage rocking the fuck out. I don’t want to much to change about that. I don’t want to change our sound because we’re trying to do something different. Bands have been together for 10 years and they are seasoned. Yeasayer is one of my recent influences. They are doing something different without trying to do something different. They’re from New York.

What did you do for a living before Chrysalis?
Yeah, I had a variety of day jobs. In Barstow, there are a lot of hotels. We’re between two of the largest metro areas. Los Angeles and Las Vegas. We get a lot of traffic. I worked as a hotel clerk. I could quit to go on tour. I’d come back and jump back into a different hotel. I worked at 10 different hotels in 3 years. I interview well.
I also did tutoring. Helped kids with science, math. Whatever they needed help with. I have students here and there that I teach guitar to now. I definitely won’t get behind the desk of a hotel. That graveyard shift. I couldn’t take it anymore. It was driving me insane. All of my friends were well-rested.

Tell me a little about Camp Southern Ground.
Our manager chose that as somewhere to donate to. I’m not too sure.
(It’s a camp for kids with special needs and typical needs.)

Roth or Hagar?
Ummmm. How could you do this to me? I’m gonna say Sammy. Sammy is just more of a front man. Just a cool guy. Roth is such a prima donna. One interesting thing about Roth that I learned not too long ago. Did you know that he was an EMT? So that makes it a hard decision. I’m gonna go with Roth on those terms. When he’s not touring, he’s saving lives.

Tour Dates:
July 5
The Epicentre
San Diego, CA | 6:00PM Tickets

Long Beach, CA | 8:00PM

Southern Nevada Sports Centre
Las Vegas, NV | 5:00PM

Gary’s Place
Tucson, AZ | 7:00PM

The Drunken Lass
Prescott, AZ | 7:00PM

JUL 10
Albuquerque, NM | 7:00PM

JUL 12
whiskey river- amarillo, texas
amarillo, TX | 7:00PM

JUL 13
Dallas, TX | 4:00PM

JUL 14
Red Eyed Fly
Austin, TX | 7:30PM

JUL 16
The White Swan Live
Houston, TX | 7:00PM

•July 17th – Louisiana

• July 18th – Alabama

•July 19th – Florida

•July 20th – Florida

• July 21st – Georgia

• July 22nd – Chapel Hill NC –

• July 23rd – Washington DC/Baltimore

• July 24th – Philadelphia

• July 25th – Brookfield CT

•July 26th – New York/New Jersey

• July 27th – Pittsburgh

• July 28th – Ohio

• July 29th – Indianapolis IN

•July 30th – Michigan

• July 31st – Chicago

• August 1st – Cherry Valley IL

• August 2nd – St. Louis

• August 3rd – Kansas

• August 4th – Iowa

• August 5th – Nebraska

• August 6th – Colorado

• August 7th – Colorado

• August 8th – Salt Lake City

• August 9th – Utah

• August 16th – Seattle

Tasty: Daily Post

You have to choose one flavor that your sense of taste will no longer be able to distinguish. Sweet, sour, bitter, salty, umami, spicy (not a taste per se, but we’re generous): which one do you choose to lose?

I should like hazelnuts. I should like hazelnut coffee syrup. But I do not. In fact, hazelnut flavoring is my least favorite tasting thing in the whole world. I like it even less than sauerkraut. Whenever I try to make myself like it, I’m always disappointed. The aftertaste isn’t good either. I realize that I’m in the minority on this one.
Nutella is the only thing with hazelnuts that I like. It is unbelievably good. Why can’t hazelnut syrup taste more like Nutella? It’s a shame that hazelnuts have to taste so bad.

Cedar Point Tips: I Wear What I want.


This year I have been to Cedar Point several times. Considering that I haven’t been there in at least eight years, I’ve tripled my Cedar Point attendance rate. Ok . . . maybe not tripled.
So I’m going to share a few pointers on making your trip to Cedar Point enjoyable.

1. Wear comfortable shoes. You will be walking a lot. Amusement parks are not the place for high heels.
2. Sunscreen. Shaded areas at Cedar Point are few and far between. Bring sunscreen with you. You will not regret it.
3. Also bring a small fortune for meals. If it’s possible, eat before or after your visit. A chicken finger meal costs about $15. I’m not joking.
4. Remember to protect your cameras and phones on the water rides. Ziploc bags will probably do the trick.
5. Charge your cell phones! You never know when your group will get separated. FYI: There is a lost person booth in the Kiddie Kingdom. If you get separated and your phone has died, you can leave a note for your group there. However, make sure everyone knows that that is the plan in case of separation. It is very important to make a plan of where and when to meet.
6. People go to people watch. So decide if you really want to make a statement with the orange knee-high fur boots and short shorts. Keep it classy! Not trashy!


If you have more questions about Cedar Point, visit the following link.

Ellipsis Queen: Daily Post


We all have strange relationships with punctuation — do you overuse exclamation marks? Do you avoid semicolons like the plague? What type of punctuation could you never live without? Tell us all about your punctuation quirks!

According to Wikipedia, ellispsis is derived from the Gre: ἔλλειψις, élleipsis, “omission” or “falling short.”

Lately, I have noticed that I use ellipsis . . . all of the time. It adds a dramatic pause. The ellipsis has all of the drama that is necessary. It’s not too much for me to handle. It says so much without saying anything.
So I can say things like “No one has seen that skinny hippie since she called me fat . . . ” It makes you wonder what happened to her doesn’t it?

P.S. Do not assume that a woman is pregnant. She might just be fat . . . and struggling to lose weight. Just sayin’. . .

Pride: Daily Post

stage mom

Tell us about something you (or a person close to you) have done recently (or not so recently) that has made you really, unabashedly proud.




My oldest kid took these pictures. I’m really proud of her.
It’s like when the mom in “Dirty Dancing” says “I think she gets this from me.” I love that part even more since I’m the mom.

I Need Space: Daily Post


For the past two weeks, I have written my posts in a variety of spaces. My teenager was home so I gave up the computer for several hours every day.
I have written many posts in my journal, while at the pond or the park. Sometimes my youngest kid let me borrow her tablet so I could type the posts and publish them. I may have bribed her with chocolate.
In retrospect, I like writing in my journal and on the computer. However, my handwriting is terribly messy. So if I have to choose, I choose the computer.
Before the kids were out of school, Lucas and I put new carpet in the living room and changed the furniture around. I’m still adding pictures to the wall and organizing things. It is an improvement over how the living room used to look. So in ten years, I might move the furniture again.

Good review/Bad review: NaBloPoMo

p>Do you tend to write good reviews or bad reviews?
I write honest reviews.
With beer reviews, I give my opinion and Lucas’ opinion. Lucas is the beer expert. Our taste in beer is completely different.
I try to find something positive with every product or band. So far, I haven’t reviewed anything that I despise. I did write about bad customer service but the post wasn’t a review of the pharmacy. Next time I have bad customer service, I should write a review.

Reviews: NaBloPoMo


How much weight do you give reviews? Do you write reviews?

All reviews should be taken with a grain of salt. Some products may be perfect for one person and terrible for another. However, different opinions can be useful in making decisions about whether to try or buy a product.
When I was a new mom, I needed all of the advice about what to get or what to avoid. I had no idea about anything related to baby supplies. So now I know, get the gas drops and the lavender baby wash. Personally, I did not like the baby carriers. The baby carriers are so hard to get on and off when you are by yourself. Some moms and dads love them. They just weren’t for me.
I do write reviews about beer and music. If a product crosses my path that I love or hate, I want to share the information. It’s just an opinion but maybe it will be useful to someone.