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I could be the worst cook in America. My boyfriend tells his friends about my cooking disasters. I'm glad someone is amused. I like movies, music, comic books and corny jokes.

Interview: A Voice for The Innocent

AVFTI

While looking for something else on the Internet, I discovered this fantastic organization called A Voice for the Innocent. They provide support for those who have been victims of sexual abuse. A Voice for the Innocent gives sexual abuse and rape victims a safe place to share their story. Some might say that the one of the first steps in healing and recovery is to tell your story.

This group really deserves some recognition for all of the great things that they do. Bethany from A Voice for the Innocent responded to my questionnaire, which is appreciated.

If you get a chance to go to Warped Tour, please visit the AVFTI booth. Also, please visit their website and find out how to volunteer or share your own story.

 

How did AVFTI come into being?

AVFTI was developed because of Jamie Sivrais. Jamie survived sexual abuse from his father. When he disclosed his story to his mother, she responded in a way that gave Jamie as much control as he could have. This made Jamie comfortable telling his story later on. When Jamie was in a band, he would tell his story and people would in turn disclose their story. Jamie often heard people say “but you’re the first person I’ve ever told.” Jamie sought out to create a space where people could anonymously share their story of sexual assault or abuse and not be judged.

 

What are some of the goals of AVFTI?

AVFTI’s ultimate goal is to eventually not exist. We want everyone to be met with a response of belief and support when they tell their story. Eventually, we want to create a world that does not accept or question sexual assault.

 

What is the most difficult thing about working for AVFTI?

Personally, it’s really hard to hear stories and not focus on the anger or sadness I feel for victims. I want people to feel like they matter, and we often find that a person’s first time disclosing their story they are questioned or not believed. That’s hard. I want to make it right, but I can only do what I can in that moment.

 

How do you stay positive?

Our volunteers and my fellow board members all work tirelessly and have such immense energy at the end of the day. They are some of my best friends. When we started building this community, we created a community of friends who support one another.

 

How can others help AVFTI?

Our site is free, and we are always in need of people to respond to stories. We also are always looking for volunteers to help with various projects in whatever specialty they have. Our application is on our website!

 

How did AVFTI get involved with Warped Tour?

AVFTI has connected with the music scene since their beginning. Warped Tour has been a partnership that’s in it’s 3rd year. Our first year we toured for part of the tour, and our second we toured the full tour. Over that time we have taught classes to several bands on the tour, handed out lots of hope notes, and connected with tons of people across the country.

 

What do you want victims of sex crimes to know?

You are not gross. You are not dirty. You are not at fault for what happened to you and you are not alone. We are here if you need us.

 

Visit AVFTI at

A Voice for the Innocent

A Voice for the Innocent on Twitter

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Weekend Coffee Share: The Kitty Funeral

If we were having coffee, I would be so glad to see you because it has been especially lonely around here. I hope that all of you are doing well.

Unfortunately, our kitty, Lilyrose, passed away. Somehow she got out of the house. She made it several blocks before she was hit by a car. My oldest daughter saw her laying on the sidewalk. Then Lucas brought her body back home.

We had a funeral for her on Thursday morning. My youngest daughter visits her every morning before school and then again when she gets home. It’s very sweet how she asks Lilyrose to protect all of the animals.

Although Lilyrose was with us for a short time, she was the most loved kitty in the world. I remember the first time I made coffee after she came to stay. She was extremely curious about the coffeemaker and the interesting noise that it made.

I will miss her trying to help with the dishes and  trying to catch the cursor while I was writing blog posts. Her favorite show was the pointer finger on Netflix. There was a toy horse that she also loved or hated. It was hard to tell.

Lilyrose was also a fan of the Kim Kardashian Hollywood game. Don’t judge. It’s very can be very addictive. She resembles the cat in the game.

She loved popcorn and cheese. She had a baby blue color because I thought I would have time to buy her a pink one. Our time with her was too short.

lilyrose

 

Find more Weekend Coffee Share posts here:

Weekend Coffee Share at Nerd in the Brain

 


#AmReading: Why Not Me?

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Honestly, it took me several months to finish this book. It wasn’t because of Kaling’s writing. I was just so exhausted that I fell asleep every time I read more than a page. “Why Not Me?” by Mindy Kaling is one of the funniest books that I’ve read in awhile.

 

Kaling talks about some of her experiences as a person who is not what society tells us is beautiful. Let’s just agree that American society lies about what is beautiful. I say this because I believe that Mindy Kaling is totally gorgeous.

She didn’t feel beautiful as a young woman. However, Kaling was funny and intelligent. She worked on making herself a better person. The confidence that she has now came in time.

When I was able to stay awake, I began to really enjoy the book. Kaling has a way of writing about her experiences that most people can relate to in some way. She writes about her experience with joining a sorority at Dartmouth College.

My favorite part was when she wrote a series of pretend emails that were part of her life if she had made different choices and become a teacher. (Is it weird that this it the part that I related to the most? Whatever. It’s fine.)

So the point is that I loved the book.  Now I love Mindy Kaling more than ever.

mindykaling

 

 

 


Protect Yourself: Flooding Your Representatives with Letters

16935780_10154146351972714_1105720762_oIf you want to write a million letters to your senator, there are no laws prohibiting you from doing so.

I would recommend addressing one topic per letter. Keep it simple. Apparently, congressmen don’t have a lot of time.

Some websites have said not to write postcards but I say do it. Write postcards. Send faxes. Emails are alright but they might get lost in the shuffle.

Keep the language clean. Do not threaten anyone or make insane demands. They might answer questions but no one can promise anything. Cursing doesn’t help your cause.

Maybe don’t send glitterbomb letters. ( I know. It would be hilarious! However, you may not get your concerns heard afterward the representative opens your letter.  Plus, they might not accept mail from you anymore.) So no glitterbombs!

Carry on! Write as many letters and postcards as you want! I found my fancy notecards so I did write one letter today. It’s not a million but it’s a start.

 

  • Keep it simple. Stick to one topic.
  • No cursing or wild demands.
  • No glitterbombs.
  • Write as often as possible.

The address for senators and representatives are, respectively:

The Honorable (insert senator’s name)
U.S. Senate
Washington, D.C. 20510

The Honorable (insert representative’s name)
U.S. House of Representatives
Washington, D.C. 20515

 

You can also find addresses here while there is a recess.

Find your Representative

 

 

P.S. Here is a website for starting a letter writing campaign.

The Action Network

P.P.S. This is a link to an article on turning old calendars into envelopes. Just in case you run out of envelopes

How to Recycle Your Old Calendar into Vibrant Stationery


Protect Yourself : Protesting

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I can’t find the original photographer. Apologies. 

 

I’m way behind on protesting. There have been no protest signs made at my house yet. However, I have been watching a ton of “Parks and Recreation.” So the spirit of protesting is here. The episode where Leslie chains herself to a mechanized gate is classic Leslie Knope. It’s one of my favorite episodes.

Unfortunately, small towns don’t have many protests. The only thing that I have ever protested was working in groups during English grammar. I wouldn’t even know where to begin. Oh wait, a trip to the store to buy sign making supplies.

Then be aware of the rights of protesters and follow the rules. Seriously, I don’t want to get arrested in a world where mystery meat sandwiches are a real thing.

If you’re going to go out into the world and protest, here’s a short list of stuff you should do first.

  1. Know what your rights are while protesting. There are things you can do and things that you definitely cannot do. It all depends on how cool you are with getting arrested or not. I added a link to the ACLU’s guide to protesting.
  2. Make an amazing sign that will get noticed.
  3. Buy some comfortable shoes. Protesting involves walking and standing.
  4. Pack your purse or fanny pack with granola bars or small snacks.

Keep your strength up! Also, protect yourself

 

 

ACLU: Know Your Rights Guide


Swan Miracle: Weekly Photo Challenge

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I have not been lucky enough to capture a good picture of swans. If I get any picture of swans, then I have to use a thousand filters.

For this picture, there are no filters. Miracles do happen.

Against the Odds. Daily Post WPC


Weekend Coffee Share: I Can’t Even . . .

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If we were having coffee, I would tell you . . .

  • In about two days, I will be fired. It is going to be the most glorious thing that has happened in the last year. No regrets. Not one.
  • While switching to days was a good thing, I also received a new supervisor who is a psychotic bitch. She makes fun of her workers and the powers that be keep her. So I’m not staying one more minute.
  • My knee is the size of a pumpkin again. It’s inflammation (aka arthritis).
  • This week, I will be spending time looking for a job.
  • I’m hoping that I don’t have to grow my hair back in order to get a job. It would be disappointing. I’m so close to having circa 1990s Prince hair.
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  • One of my other goals is to work on one or both of my books. There’s a third book in the mix somewhere.
  • I’ll get to see my kids and drive them every damn place. It will be pretty awesome.

 

prince

 

  • I foresee a lot of coffee in the near future. There’s so much to do: Get a job. Finish writing 3 books. Keep Prince on heavy music rotation per the usual. Drive kids everywhere. Stay positive. The end.

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