Okayest Daughter


As some of you know, my relationship with my dad has been strained and basically non-existent. Some years we talk. Last year, we didn’t talk at all. I didn’t call him anymore. He never called me. We definitely have a failure to communicate on the most basic level.

I don’t think my dad is a bad man. We just don’t understand each other all of the time.

I’ve heard through the grapevine that he hasn’t been well. So I called him last night for the first time in over a year. I was doing the dishes and knew that I needed to call him immediately.

I had to call someone else to find his phone number. Sad, right? When I called him the last time, I had a different phone.

He has not been well. He’s had a series of mini-strokes.

I was going to ask him questions about why he never calls or if he’s mad at me. I did not. None of those questions seemed important anymore.

He talked to me for at least an hour. It might have been two.

So that’s where we are right now. Maybe we’ll have lunch sometime. I will try to be better than just the “okayest daughter.”


My Dad Deserves Better Than the World’s Okayest Daughter

β€œJust a small town girl – living in a lonely world.” Concert tickets are practically essential. Musicals are the key to life. I like movies, music,books, and corny jokes.


  1. As someone who also has an incredibly difficult relationship with her dad, I can relate on so many levels and am glad last night’s chat went so well.

    1. Thanks! I wasn’t sure how it would go. But I was glad that I called. πŸ™‚ Also, good to know I’m not the only one with the same situation. Kind of. Growing up is a bunch of b.s. isn’t it?

  2. I’m not very attached to my father too. But we live under the same roof, so it’s kind of moving. I hope you repair your relationship with him and make lots of memories 😊❀️

  3. So happy for you that your talk went well. That must be quite stressful. Good for you for making that move this time. I can only imagine how hard it is when you haven’t been close and don’t have regular communication. Take care.

  4. Relationships are so hard especially with parents. You won’t regret reaching out but you would’ve if you didn’t.

  5. It’s good to hear you’re making headway. As a father, I’m heartbroken to hear this kind of story. As a son who spent my childhood terrified of my father, and later went 15 years without talking to hm, I get it. My dad wasn’t a good guy and I got tired of forgiving him. He eventually grew up, earned his way back into my trust, and proved himself to be a decent grandfather. I was just beginning to like him when he died two years ago, and while it would be a lie to say that I loved him in the end, I’d grown to enjoy his company and even miss him from time to time. It’s a good thing, to be rid of the angst and anger, as long as he’s meeting you halfway. I’m rooting for you both.

  6. I totally get it. My relationship with my dad is fine – I can’t point to a single tangible problem – but we’re just not close. I forget to call him on holidays and basically also feel like the world’s OKest daughter.

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