Why You'll Never Find the One: #bookreview

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Why You’ll Never Find the One by Sarah Akinterinwa is the perfect combination of dating advice and illustrations. British Cartoonist Sarah Akinterinwa says in her LinkedIn profile,” Before I became a cartoonist, I drew as a hobby and worked as a therapist.” So all of the advice is very sound, beautiful and clear.

The book could be set anywhere that has a singles dating scene. The chapter titles that speak to me are “We Are All Victims of Romanticization” and “Why You Need to Date Yourself.”

If only I had learned these lessons and also about red flags when I was in my 20s. I could have avoided so much heartache and nonsense. The best quote in my opinion is “I think I just need to stop giving shitty people a change.” So simple and brilliant.

The main character’s dating life is based on some of the author’s experiences. Many of us feel pressured to find our one true love and live happily ever after. The truth is that we don’t have to give in to what everyone else wants.

People need to focus on loving themselves and figuring out what brings them joy. It’s sort of like marie kondo-ing your life but with relationships. Does this relationship bring me joy? No – then move on to whatever does bring you joy. The point is to choose yourself. Do not ever, ever, ever feel guity about choosing yourself.

Everything that the main character goes through is totally relatable. The story is told in a way that we can all laugh about how we’ve handled things before. Now that we have access to all of this great advice and lovely illustrations, we have hope for an new and improved dating experience.

If you are a single person of any sexual orientation, race or religion, then this book could have the answers for how to deal with dating. Sometimes I miss dating but not usually because it can be horrible.

If you have really strict, inflexible ideas or rules about dating then you might not like this book but you should read it anyway.