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Be On the Lookout: Olivia Cattano

Olivia Cattano

Update: Olivia has been found!

Hello Everyone,

If you have a minute, be on the lookout for Olivia Cattano. She was taken out of school by her mother, Dawn Vigue, on September 9th and has not been seen since then. Olivia’s dad and family are doing everything possible to find her and bring her home. I do know her dad and have seen Olivia a few times through the years.

Her mother has lost custody but has not been served the paperwork yet. The word is that Dawn has had a history of violence against children. She went on the run while the court case was in process. Dawn Vigue has lived in the Columbus area, Ohio, including Westerville, Powell, and Delaware. She is also good at staying under the radar so she probably isn’t drawing attention to herself.

It is possible that they are staying in the area with a man named “Yogi.” The rumor is that Yogi is a pimp. I cannot stress how important it is to find Olivia. Her safety is really in jeopardy.

If I had to guess, I would say that they could be at a homeless shelter, a cheap motel or a campground. They are more than likely living a transient lifestyle so they could be anywhere. Columbus is also close to Interstates 71 and 70. They could have also gotten on Interstate 75 in Dayton.

Please share the Facebook posts or this post in order to get her Olivia’s story out there. So if you see Olivia or Dawn, please contact (419)202-1404 or (419)603-8661.

If you suspect that this case could be related to human trafficking, contact the National Human Trafficking Hotline 1-888-3737-888 — or Text INFO or HELP to BeFree (233733). Calling 911 is always an option.

No More: “Why Doesn’t She Just Leave?”

If you have a blog, you have a platform and a voice. Use today to talk about the cause most important to your heart.

http://nomore.org/
http://nomore.org/

It is so common for victims of domestic abuse to also have to choose between being homeless and being abused. Most victims do not have a place to go or the financial resources to move.

It’s not that easy to just leave. It should be but it’s not.

This week is No More Week. The band, Hellyeah, will be releasing their single, “Hush,” on March 13 as part of No More Week. “Hush” was written about singer Chad Gray’s experience with domestic abuse.  If you call your local rock station and request the song, it will bring a little more awareness to the cause.

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http://hellyeahband.com/nomore/

 

NoMore.org also has a list of events and things that you could do to help victims of domestic violence and sexual assault.

Let’s get out the word out people. Start a conversation. Volunteer. Let’s do something.

 

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For more information on the No More campaign, visit http://nomore.org/

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Janay Rice: I get it but I don’t get it

The news about Janay and Ray Rice is everywhere. Most of the people on the planet have seen the video of the couple on the elevator. 

This morning I read the following quote from Janay Rice on the Baltimore Sun website : 

“I woke up this morning feeling like I had a horrible nightmare, feeling like I’m mourning the death of my closest friend,” Janay Rice wrote. “But to have to accept the fact that it’s reality is a nightmare in itself. No one knows the pain that [the] media & unwanted options from the public has caused my family. To make us relive a moment in our lives that we regret every day is a horrible thing. To take something away from the man I love that he has worked his ass [off] for all his life just to gain ratings is horrific.

“THIS IS OUR LIFE! What don’t you all get. If your intentions were to hurt us, embarrass us, make us feel alone, take all happiness away, you’ve succeeded on so many levels. Just know we will continue to grow & show the world what real love is! Ravensnation we love you!”

Okay, Mrs. Rice. I get it. You and your husband are dealing with your domestic violence issue in an extremely public way. However, no one did anything to you and your husband, except your husband. There is no one else to blame. So I do not understand why you are blaming everyone, except your husband. 

When I see your picture from the press conference, I recognize all of the traits of a domestic violence victim – shame, embarrassment, fear. I’m positive that the last few months have been awful – in public and at home. Many people are hoping that you can get the help that you need so you can be a survivor, instead of a victim. 

AP: Phillip Semanksy http://www.phillymag.com/news/2014/09/09/people-still-victim-blaming-janay-rice/
AP: Phillip Semanksy
http://www.phillymag.com/news/2014/09/09/people-still-victim-blaming-janay-rice/

Links: 

This is a link to Becki Duckworth’s blog post. Excellent work. http://isurvivedamurderattackmyfamilydidnt.com/2014/09/09/why-i-stayed-why-i-left/

Post by Blissfully Single: https://blissfullysinglevoice.wordpress.com/2014/09/10/whyistayed-my-story/

http://articles.baltimoresun.com/2014-09-09/sports/bal-janay-rice-breaks-her-silence-describes-situation-as-horrible-nightmare-20140909_1_janay-rice-janay-palmer-ray-rice

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I Love the Way You Lie: NaBloPoMo

https://www.havenhills.org/
https://www.havenhills.org/

Did you ever tell a lie you had to keep repeating in order to not blow your cover?

Unfortunately, yes I have. The circumstances were extraordinary. Extraordinarily bad. I was in an abusive relationship at the time.
I thought that if I convinced him to move out of state with me then he would not be close to my kids. So I told people that this is what I wanted. I told him that I wanted to move away with him. I told his mother that I wanted to move. She tried to talk me out of it. I do feel terrible for lying to her.
It was a means to an end. Luckily, it was not the end of me or my children. Not everyone is as blessed as I was to have a new beginning.
If I had to do it all over, I would have gotten help in a different way. At the time, I didn’t know that domestic violence shelters existed.

So if you know someone that is being abused, here is the link to the National Domestic Violence Hotline. http://www.thehotline.org/ The phone number is 1-800-799-7233. If you have questions, they have answers. Everything that is shared will stay confidential.

Falling apart. . . Nablopomo

Falling apart. . . Nablopomo

As some of you may or may not know, I was involved in a domestic abuse situation about six years ago. Honestly, almost every day was a nightmare. Nothing goes right when you let someone else take over your life.
I think it was the lowest point in my life. I was estranged from my family. FYI: Abusers will isolate you from everyone that cares about you, including parents, children, friends and co-workers.
We moved out of state because I wanted to get him away from my kids. He believed me when I said I wanted to move. I knew that I was coming back without him but I wasn’t sure how or when I would leave. I didn’t feel like I could really trust anyone to help me. If I had to do it over, I would have found help somewhere closer to home. I think I was afraid that the hold he had over my life would not break if he was close.
We didn’t have any money and were about two days from having our own cardboard box. My plan seemed to be falling apart, except that he was away from my kids.
Did I mention that I was about five months pregnant? The saddest thing I’ve ever seen besides abused children are homeless children. It was heartbreaking to see children in that situation.
Anyway, I decided to leave him before I gave birth to a child that would be homeless. I waited until he fell asleep at 3 a.m. I grabbed the car keys and my suitcase and left.Luckily, I had enough gas to make it to the airport.
I went back home with the help of my mom and her friends.Otherwise I would still be sitting in the Tampa International Airport.
How do you repay someone for their generosity? How do you show gratitude for their forgiveness? I’m still working on repaying my family. I do appreciate them so much for helping me put the pieces back together.

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Link to Safe Horizon: http://www.safehorizon.org/index/what-we-do-2/domestic-violence–abuse-53/domestic-violence–abuse-shelters-340.html