Janay Rice: I get it but I don’t get it

The news about Janay and Ray Rice is everywhere. Most of the people on the planet have seen the video of the couple on the elevator. 

This morning I read the following quote from Janay Rice on the Baltimore Sun website : 

“I woke up this morning feeling like I had a horrible nightmare, feeling like I’m mourning the death of my closest friend,” Janay Rice wrote. “But to have to accept the fact that it’s reality is a nightmare in itself. No one knows the pain that [the] media & unwanted options from the public has caused my family. To make us relive a moment in our lives that we regret every day is a horrible thing. To take something away from the man I love that he has worked his ass [off] for all his life just to gain ratings is horrific.

“THIS IS OUR LIFE! What don’t you all get. If your intentions were to hurt us, embarrass us, make us feel alone, take all happiness away, you’ve succeeded on so many levels. Just know we will continue to grow & show the world what real love is! Ravensnation we love you!”

Okay, Mrs. Rice. I get it. You and your husband are dealing with your domestic violence issue in an extremely public way. However, no one did anything to you and your husband, except your husband. There is no one else to blame. So I do not understand why you are blaming everyone, except your husband. 

When I see your picture from the press conference, I recognize all of the traits of a domestic violence victim – shame, embarrassment, fear. I’m positive that the last few months have been awful – in public and at home. Many people are hoping that you can get the help that you need so you can be a survivor, instead of a victim. 

AP: Phillip Semanksy http://www.phillymag.com/news/2014/09/09/people-still-victim-blaming-janay-rice/
AP: Phillip Semanksy


This is a link to Becki Duckworth’s blog post. Excellent work. http://isurvivedamurderattackmyfamilydidnt.com/2014/09/09/why-i-stayed-why-i-left/

Post by Blissfully Single: https://blissfullysinglevoice.wordpress.com/2014/09/10/whyistayed-my-story/



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18 responses to “Janay Rice: I get it but I don’t get it”

  1. Reblogged this on It Is What It Is and commented:
    What I don’t understand is why she married him ….. “We are staying together to show what real love is” … or something along those lines, she say. I’m baffled!! Won’t be surprised about future events, sad to say.

    1. I don’t understand why she married him either. It’s a sad situation.

      1. Sad indeed. I think it will happen again.

      2. The odds are not good unfotunately.

  2. She is being controlled and told what to say. Classic DC Right here. It’s only going to get worse

    1. I agree. Still a victim. I also liked the post you wrote the other day about this topic. I almost didn’t write this one because you said it all so well. You see the same things i see. I’m going to put the link to yours on here if that’s ok.

      1. Thank you so much. The story hit home on so many levels. My employer is the NFL. Not looking forward to being in the office today.

      2. Oh right. I did read that. Eeek. Good luck. But I know you’ll make it through the day. Sending you good vibes! What do you think of their domestic violence policy? You can send me a message if you can’t comment.

      3. Just arrived at my office. Can you send me your email address and I can reply in a bit.:) Have a great day.My email is beckikeyevents@gmail.com

      4. my email is holley4734@gmail.com. 🙂 Hope your day is filled with awesomeness. 🙂

      5. Hey Becki !! How are you?? Hope you are doing good. I had been away on hiatus since 3-6 months so weren’t able to check up on ya. I tried to reach your blog but weren’t able to do so for some reason. Thanks God I found you here. I was getting worried where you might have gone…Wishing you much Love,
        Zee <3

  3. Unless a person has been a survivor of domestic violence they won’t ‘get it’ with the woman. She will defend her husband every time, because that’s how she is programmed. That’s what they do to survive. I feel sorry for her and unfortunately I do ‘get her’. I feel afraid for her future.

    1. I get it. I was like that too. I am terrified for her also. I hope she gets help.
      A lot of people don’t get it. And they won’t.

      1. I could tell you got it. And you’re right, some will never will, and for me, I do hope they never do.

      2. True. It’s better not to really get it. It’s too bad she doesn’t have the right support system.

  4. I agree a 100%…It’s about time women start to say it like it is rather than covering it up and trying to justify it in so many ways…

  5. Every sports person, for the most part a man, is a walking lethal weapon and what he did was a reaction to her hitting him, no matter he need help, she needs help by marrying him?
    They both must help the next victim from this abuse by speaking out.

  6. If only there was a magic wand to make that beautiful woman realize how strong she is and that love doesn’t hurt. I feel for her being dragged through the media whether it’s shame or simply attention. I can’t imagine dealing with this and seeing your own face on the front of media outlets everywhere.

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