I Love the Way You Lie: NaBloPoMo

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Did you ever tell a lie you had to keep repeating in order to not blow your cover?

Unfortunately, yes I have. The circumstances were extraordinary. Extraordinarily bad. I was in an abusive relationship at the time.
I thought that if I convinced him to move out of state with me then he would not be close to my kids. So I told people that this is what I wanted. I told him that I wanted to move away with him. I told his mother that I wanted to move. She tried to talk me out of it. I do feel terrible for lying to her.
It was a means to an end. Luckily, it was not the end of me or my children. Not everyone is as blessed as I was to have a new beginning.
If I had to do it all over, I would have gotten help in a different way. At the time, I didn’t know that domestic violence shelters existed.

So if you know someone that is being abused, here is the link to the National Domestic Violence Hotline. http://www.thehotline.org/ The phone number is 1-800-799-7233. If you have questions, they have answers. Everything that is shared will stay confidential.

11 Comments

  1. Thank you for sharing this. I do know someone right now in that situation. And she is pulling away from everyone. Maybe I should be taking the steps to help her whether she wants it or not. Thank you for this right now. I’m glad everything worked out for you!

    1. Yes! Definitely help her however you can! My friend sent me an email with a link to a questionaire – something like “Are you in an abusive relationship?” So I took the quiz. I hadn’t been able to admit it before then. Even though I knew but I hadn’t said it out loud.
      Thanks! I hope your friend can find a way out.

  2. I’m happy for you that you finally got away from the abusive relationship. I’ve never been in one, but I have been unhappy in marriage and stayed anyway, for 12 years. Isn’t it strange that we stay? Sometimes it just seems easier. Anyway, glad you safe. I will share this post for you. Peace.

  3. This is such a tender part of your life that you are sharing. Thank you for being transparent. I too have been a victim of domestic violence and pushed me to overcome my fear of driving. I drove 27 hrs away from that husband to rebuild my life. I ended up meeting the love of my life. The leap was worth it for me.

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