I Love the Way You Lie: NaBloPoMo

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Did you ever tell a lie you had to keep repeating in order to not blow your cover?

Unfortunately, yes I have. The circumstances were extraordinary. Extraordinarily bad. I was in an abusive relationship at the time.
I thought that if I convinced him to move out of state with me then he would not be close to my kids. So I told people that this is what I wanted. I told him that I wanted to move away with him. I told his mother that I wanted to move. She tried to talk me out of it. I do feel terrible for lying to her.
It was a means to an end. Luckily, it was not the end of me or my children. Not everyone is as blessed as I was to have a new beginning.
If I had to do it all over, I would have gotten help in a different way. At the time, I didn’t know that domestic violence shelters existed.

So if you know someone that is being abused, here is the link to the National Domestic Violence Hotline. http://www.thehotline.org/ The phone number is 1-800-799-7233. If you have questions, they have answers. Everything that is shared will stay confidential.

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11 comments

  1. Thank you for sharing this. I do know someone right now in that situation. And she is pulling away from everyone. Maybe I should be taking the steps to help her whether she wants it or not. Thank you for this right now. I’m glad everything worked out for you!

    • Yes! Definitely help her however you can! My friend sent me an email with a link to a questionaire – something like “Are you in an abusive relationship?” So I took the quiz. I hadn’t been able to admit it before then. Even though I knew but I hadn’t said it out loud.
      Thanks! I hope your friend can find a way out.

  2. I’m happy for you that you finally got away from the abusive relationship. I’ve never been in one, but I have been unhappy in marriage and stayed anyway, for 12 years. Isn’t it strange that we stay? Sometimes it just seems easier. Anyway, glad you safe. I will share this post for you. Peace.

  3. This is such a tender part of your life that you are sharing. Thank you for being transparent. I too have been a victim of domestic violence and pushed me to overcome my fear of driving. I drove 27 hrs away from that husband to rebuild my life. I ended up meeting the love of my life. The leap was worth it for me.

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